Posted on: 25 April 2016
Being a single mom isn't easy. Being a single mom at church can be even tougher when many church events seem to be focused on couples. Single moms may feel like they don't fit in at church, and in extreme cases some may even feel they are being judged because of their circumstances.
You can make a difference in the lives of single moms in your church family by knowing their needs and understanding their struggles.
Never judge them
Every single mom has a unique story. Many single moms did not choose to be alone with children to raise. Some may have been abandoned by their spouses or have been in abusive relationships and needed to get out due to safety reasons.
Always keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes. Even if the mom is in a difficult place because of her poor choices in the past, show her unconditional love, forgiveness, and acceptance. Many have already been through enough without dealing with harsh and unnecessary accusations.
Get to know them
Saying hello on Sunday morning isn't enough. Reach out to single moms. Get to know them, but don't pry into their past by asking too many personal questions. Be a good listener and let them open up to you as they feel comfortable.
Single moms often struggle with loneliness. Ask if you can sit with them at church. Offer to pick them up and give them a ride to church functions. Invite a single mom to your home for a meal. Offer to take her and her children to the movies or for a dinner date.
Single moms may feel embarrassed at church if their children act up. Offer to take a fussy baby or unruly toddler to the nursery so mom can sit through the church service without being interrupted.
Give the single mom an evening out with her friends by offering to babysit for free. Offer to help her clean the house or organize her closets. Pay a teenager in the church to mow her lawn each week.
Make extra food when you cook and drop off a ready-made meal or a special dessert. Invite a single mom to your house on a Sunday afternoon for a once-a-week cooking marathon. Cooking together is a great way to build a friendship, and you will both benefit from having a week's worth of meals prepared.
Send them flowers
If the entire household is down with the flu, a lovely bouquet of get well flowers can be a bright spot in the day of a single mom who has been housebound with sick kids for a week.
Sending get-well flowers is also a great way to show you understand when a single mom may be dealing with chronic health conditions, such as fibromyalgia, arthritis, or recurrent migraine headaches.
Holidays can be difficult for single moms. Valentine's day can be especially lonely when she sees social media posts with all the flowers other women received from their spouses. A nice flower arrangement will show her that you understand and care about her needs.
Learning how to meet the unique needs of single moms is vital in church ministry. It will make the single mom's life a little easier and make your church a warm and welcoming place of encouragement for single moms who are struggling.Share